Super not motivated to work today, guess we all have bad days sometimes.. and it is all up to how to deal with it.
Not sure how I should explain, but no matter how I see it, would be easier to just say it's my fault although it is not the most helpful answer. And as usual just needed to find a way to make myself feel slightly better by spamming the same song(s). At this rate I will have my emo nemo playlist!!
At least, some happy thoughts today - M sent the wedding video over and omo our random idea of trying to work out in our bridesmaid dresses at a park was in there!! Looked damn funny but I guess for memories :) Had a super long day with barely any sleep but I guess it was worth it, esp when I knew my Monday was going to be bad anyw..
And thanks M for the sweetest message and for having me as part of teambride!! Made new friends and I am always thankful that we became friends albeit starting off as random roommates!!!
Posting some pics here for memories!!
M's bridal shower at cake piping workshop!! Neutral theme and guess who couldnt wear white sneakers cause of her swollen foot?? I fell from running omg it is a yearly thing...
After morning gatecrash!! #sponsoruspls weather was hot and we got all sweaty in the morn haha. Damn funny tho, the guys tried to trick us with empty / $2 bucks angbaos, with C throwing them back at the door HAHAHA.
And evening photo!! A and myself went earlier to help with the solemnisation ceremony before being at the recep. Pardon my eyes omg 1h of sleep and 15 mins afternoon nap was all that I had!
Oh yes I won a mini lucky draw angbao too haha. Super long day but happier than other days!!! :)
Sunday, 12 September 2021
Trying to login once in awhile just so that I lose this space due to inactivity!
It is back to the peak season, and it's just sad that I never officially got a proper break this year. Haha I kept 'ranting' to people about the extra CCAs that I took on, like preparing materials for an external training for the partners, TPU and social event for the team.. but to think about it, all these could have been avoided if I was firm on rejecting it at the start. It was until at some point in time where everyone realised that I was really struggling and not delivering, not to mention the backlog I had.....
But anyway, it is over! Just that I am on a tax course in Sept (which is examinable in Oct) so essentially I am still as busy as ever. Please hope that I can survive this while I figure a way out myself!!!
That said, I am trying very hard to de-work over the weekends. There were nights for family mahjong, Sundays with Tessa... Sometimes it works because by Sunday evening I just get too tired to work. I just hope I don't stress myself out too much!
Had some good time hanging out with people since being fully vaccinated! Met one of my counselees and JX (her buddy) over KBBQ and ice-cream on one Sunday; and met more people last weekend that people started to guess if I was leaving oops!!
Gna post some pics here for keepsake; I don't think these publicly available (or at least I hope so with my privacy settings) ๐
Catchup with An & Mich (4 Sep)
Met An and Mich and we found a baby friendly place to dine at - NOM. Food was ok, but I guess someone was super happy to see N! Was a great catch up, can't wait for my batch to meet and see J as well!!
Not the glamest photos around haha. & finally visit my grandma with dad and bro, since I was home in time before heading out for hotpot with family!! Wanted to bring my maternal grandpa but we had some issues finding his vaccination cert. :(
Dinner with the A2s going S1s (5 Sep)
Met up for Clar's farewell on Sunday with her batch (JX, L and E)! Chir chir x bingsooo cause I don't think I want to eat KBBQ, and maybe not drink the day before work.
A pity we didn't get a group photo but hopefully we will all meet again! Thanks for the jiooooo :)
Cycling from Marina Bay to Changi Airport
Finally went cycling aft we tried to walk from ECP to Marina Bay previously!!
Gotta say it felt very weird cause it has been a long time... and the height of the handle cannot be adjusted. Usually for spin, the seat has to be high since my legs do not touch the floor, but for actually cycling I am actually super scared that I will fall so the seat height has to be low for me to feel safe. & was being a cycling hazard at the start cause I couldn't get used to it and I wasn't sure how to change the gears etc.
But thankfully nothing serious happened except for times when I had to force brake cause I felt insecure of my skills. But yay thanks to the ones who tried to keep a lookout for us by slowly down or cycling at the back; I don't think I could have done the same cause I was too busy trying not to get into any accidents ๐ฌ
And thankful for the good weather (though not so happy about bring sunburnt); was glad to be able to watch the waves! Me would love to just sit by the beach and just chill if i have time~~~
Also felt nostalgic, and realised that it was also 7 years ago when le exhousemates went cycling together in Cijin:
Haha ded I definitely looked much fitter then; not sure how I survived cycling almost everyday for more than 3 months there!!
Anyw we went Jewel for lunch and desserts (ok maybe only I had the icecream from BOP cause I never tried that before). Was a good day that I slept through most of my Sat :) Let's cycle again soon, before things get too busy!
And yes I contemplated cutting my hair short, but Michie's wedding is coming and I was hoping to keep the curls till then. But my hair has been falling though so I think I don't have a choice.. heh but still excited for Oct, though I am not sure how I will survive this month :')
We're back to Phase 2 (HA)!
Been such a tiring year to date (mentally). Extended peak that was supposed to end 15 Jan but not for me cause mine started waaaaay later than most people and still clearing backlog, and its worse cause it wasn't a good financial year so pressure from everywhere while we are close to year end :( Not liking this feeling but I hope it will pass soon.
No travel plans as well since COVID-19 situation is still bad in most countries, but somewhat glad that I tried to follow through my resolution to exercise more this year (as a way to dework) before Phase 2A happened! Tried to attend spin classes when I can (keyword is tried!!) There were times when I went for classes diligently for consecutive days in a week, and not so good times when I may not attend for a whole week oops. Also tried to go for walks on weekends when the capacity was 8 pax (and subsequently down to 5)..
Here's one with le bro and cuzzie! There were other walks planned but not much photos hehe.
But most of the time it is for food!!
Now I'm just a potatooooo. With a limit of 2 pax its so hard to ask people to go on walks!!! Partly cause I'm pretty much introvert and it will be awkward for me hahaha.
So we got ourselves a new hobby as an attempt to try not to work 24/7 and that is.. mahjong! Got back to this cause my mum and I are terrible at peeling ourselves away from the laptop (ok la, for me on weekends the tendency for me to binge watch shows is much higher and if I don't start working likely my weekend will pass quickly and I suffer during the weekdays). Lost quite a bit the first time since I forgot almost all of the rules heh.
But... we got to play twice this week thanks to PH! Won quite a bit but I was too generous and didn't really collect any of my winnings in the end oops. My mum chided me a little but I guess since we're only playing with family members its ok laaaa. Featuring one of my fave ่ชๆธๆปกๅฐ:
Also had a couple of good wins tonight, after attending Shenghao's and Jessie's wedding via livestream (congrats again!!! Didn't manage to capture any ss but the choir peeps did~)
Well.. thats about it!! Not going to rant about work, the thought of it would dampen my good mood today.
Just hoping that everything will be better soon~~~ :)
Felt so unreal; not sure if it is because of the long passage of time but sometimes I cannot remember how it last felt when it happened :(
But looking back, my mum does resemble my maternal grandma~ /random
I'm just so busy these days that I don't even know what I am doing anymore. Just can't wait for 15th to be over :(
A different Christmas this year cause of COVID-19, but still good time spent for myself and people that matter~
Made the call that I wouldn't work over the long weekend because I truly needed a break (though there were times that I said I need to check my work stuff and contemplated whether to switch on the laptop).. So Christmas Eve became a day for last minute shopping and lunch date with L though I am not supposed to be eating solid foods yet (I did my wisdom teeth surgery / extraction in the same week!!). Glad to be truly out of office after doing work / admin over the week while on MC because (1) Clients are not on leave yet; (2) People will panic seeing the 3 day MC and effectively a 2-week break before office reopens; and (3) I really had a lot of calls on Wed and my wound started to ache after that :(
Anyway, celebrated Christmas Eve with the cousins cause there were extra slots and since we had nothing much planned - the adults have the celebrations at the usual venue cause only 5 visitors allowed at any point in time. Christmas spent sleeping in, gift wrapping, eating homemade laksa and playing mahjong (we took 2 hours to finish 2 rounds lmao)
Sat spent at the west! I read the timing wrong, thought the agreed meeting time was 930 (when it was 9) and was 15 mins late instead of 15 mins early. But I managed to wake up early so I guess I should be thankful for that? Haha same trek route but super tiring cause there were less breaks compared to the last time and I haven't exercised for more than 2 weeks, really very shag!! Had korean food for lunch, a bit paiseh cause they changed to another place instead of OFC so that I can eat something. But yay to desserts after that (and thanks N for the farewell treat) - missed going to cafes to chill omg.
Slept really well after that (clocked long naps and sleep for the day) haha that I felt even more tired on Sun oops.
But at least I got to sleep in again along with more naps until I saw one client email, followed by one internal email asking to discuss work over text / whatsapp today (and got a message at 7ish in the morning)....... I can understand why the EP would panic (I would have thought of the same to get things out before Jan so I wasn't angry) but I guess because I don't chase people for stuff over Whatsapp so.. I felt a bit sian when I get such texts or requests while on office closure. Guess it's back to work again - dental / spin / dinner today so hopefully I don't overwork!
Saturday, 19 December 2020
Decided to put a short post here while on the bus, to remind myself why I didn't follow Google Maps instruction to wait for the express bus and took the normal bus that reached 3 mins earlier, only to expect myself reaching home about 30 mins later than planned.
That said, Christmas is coming! ๐ Would love to say that my peak for the year has ended but sadly it has not given the extension in tax filing which means.. unlike prior years this Christmas would be a busy one :( Every year I thought peak would never get any worse (for myself) but seems like it exceeded my expectations yearly. Not going to rant because it's partially over, but really hoping this will be the last time!
At least, there are always good things to be thankful for, or happy about! Finally a godma (though a terrible one for now cause I'm so busy..) but it does make me realise that I will never want my current work-life next time. Will be sure to make time for the little one after peak!
Also realised unexpected friendships do happen sometimes. Random conversations with friends, but yea would not have thought about 'eh how we became friends/close this year' haha. Well at least, its good to have more friends around to keep you sane at work, though it will be sad when the time comes and people leave.. (when will it be my turn though)
Leaving some happy food memories here! Hopefully I can remember the occasions when these happened (and whom I was with) when I look back next time hahaha :)
Also to commemorate my first trek last time cause.. today we thought it would rain (but it didn't!!)
https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-things-remember-when-everything-seem-going-wrong.html
Trying to stay positive with this article.. somehow things are all going wrong at the same time and it's so difficult.. I'm not too sure if it's just me or I'm just in a slump :(
Wonder if it's a sign?
Back in a loooong time! Feeling nostalgic cause I finally took my personal laptop out to attend a zoom meeting w Lynn and the rest; the last time I did that was actually in Feb 2019? Before I changed to my current phone :O But hey I found a very old photo on my laptop (along with those 2015 memories in school when i studied with Mich):-
This was back in Oct 2015!! Years before I got my current avo and fattyseal as additional huggables :D Only thing I noticed was that my face is damn round already, how to get my face smaller again?
Anyway not sure why but.. I'm blogging from my phone whutttt. That aside, nothing much to update since the last post, other than having a really busy year and having really late nights and very little sleep during peak. Shan't rant cause I chose this so.. if really cannot take it anymore then it's a signnnnn~
But last year was the start of 'watching all your friends getting hitched one by one' year!! Haha attended quite a few weddings, hope I didn't miss out any..
PS, the first one was Huiting's wedding but the ones with her were really blur!! And weishan got married too; had fun being her bridesmaid along w Kary and the rest! And not forgetting Bev's, where I brought my laptop and change of clothes to OT in office, only to leave office on 15th morning (and back in the noon).
Choir peeps met up in Dec, and subsequently in March during Evan's wedding!! Supposed to catch up in May but given the current situation I think it is hard.. hopefully we all get to meet in July when Jessie gets married! :) though it will be awkz cause her hubby was my prisch classmate ooops.
Also working from home cause of the circuit breaker in place; our department actually started in Feb (right aft my off day haha) but went back in March cause I was really unproductive at home. But again, stopped going back a few days before closure and my stuff are in a mess in office :/ Also can't really interact with people.. initally there were occasional lunch with Huiyi and badminton sesh with the easties but now.. :( I do miss seeing people but please stay home and have the virus under control!!! Staying home one month is better than a lockdown afterall.
I am thankful for teams though! Works like telegram and we can send gifs!! Le batch also had a recent video conf over lunch; sooo glad to see them again tho I forgot to sceeenshot that haha. Hoping for more of these to push through this period!!
Also, back to bingewatch dramas. Cant believe I am clearing one full series over 1 - 2 weekends! Watched CLOY and moving on to Itaewon class, thanks to Netflix!! Also caught some other korean and HK dramas cause I need a break during the weekends. Especially if I had worked late every weekday :/
Contemplating whether to download audition again!! I heard AuditionSEA was gone but there is Audition Next Level which is the same??? Not sure if I can use my old accounts, i missed debbiiee and choco!! Also missed those good old days; cant believe I stopped for close to 10 years?!?! (Excluding the time when I played awhile when I was in TW). Watched some audi videos online (esp beatup mode) and I wanna try playing again!!! Though i will need to invest in a keyboard with flat keys haha.
Ok back to Itaewon class!! Promised myself that I will review some work tomorrow :/
That feeling knowing that you are dispensible;
That feeling when you make those small errors which amplified in your own mind;
That feeling that sometimes it is ok to let go rather than holding it in;
That feeling that you should be familiar with but yet it is so difficult to digest it in;
That uncertainty that you recognise but not accept..
The small monster that poses the largest obstacle of all - our mindset.
How does one tell when is the time to leave? What are the signs?
Not sure if its just me but I've been having signs of being overly stressed out even before the actual peak. There were times when I really just want to not give any shit but remorse/guilt strikes back at the very next morning.
People tell me that I should just relax a little, take less work, etc. But the truth is I haven't been taking much new client work. Most of them are recurring because of the 3-year documentation cycle but I can't simply switch out of my engagement because I was the minion then and I'm the senior now (and not the preparer). It's my second year being a senior and though I'm moving towards a pure reviewer role, I face more pressure from both the top and bottom roles. And sometimes, I just have no time to clear something that had been outstanding for the longest time ever. And it's my fault (and will always be my fault) when I cannot deliver.
And I do get other signs, like:
(I) Fear of checking emails outside of working hours. It got worse with the citrix app cause the notification of xx unread emails just stresses me out whenever the notification icon pops out if I receive any new mail.
(II) Fear of getting comments which may suggest that my work was not the best that I could have done
(III) Fear of getting random chasers, both internal and external. Like if I really don't have the time, I can stay up till 3/4/5am once but I can't do that for the whole week just to meet timelines and expectations
(IV) Inertia to get myself to work / focus sometimes
(V) Bringing work home but ended up not being able to clear anything, but yet leaving all the lights / TV on while I KO on the sofa
(VI) "Writer's block" where I have something in my mind but I just cannot put words into my reports.
The easiest tell tale sign was that I was obviously missing out alot on family, friends and me-time. I'm in office from 9-11.30 usually and when I'm home it became a habit to just bathe / work / sleep (and some TV sometimes if I get lucky)
I wanna go on leave, but ironically every time I mention this, people will tell me that I've gone on leave this year already.. And it's just my 1-week Japan trip with K and 5-day cruise with my family. And before anyone throw shit at me, I've to mention that I didn't get any leave right up till I leave for airport (or when I did take leave I actually went back to office still). And both were in May.
And while I did some other days off (to leave only 5 AL to carry over and to not make it seem like I wasted all of my TOIL), I'm either in office or working from home.
It just struck me real hard recently cause I've never rested and it's just going downhill from here. Official leave block has been announced so.. :(
Even if I want to leave, where can I go?
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End if rant. Hopefully I get to clear my work till 3? If not I really think I'll be in trouble next week :(
And I've got another draft post which I never had the chance to update... I hope I can do that after peak!
Throwback to the last time when I actually got the chance to spend some time out with my family. :')